I usually go through my papers or documents once every so often. I do this mainly to keep myself organized mentally and physically, but every so often I come across something I wrote a while back and I am reminded again where I have been. However the most rewarding thing about going through old items is the new lens it leaves you with, the new way of thinking it bestows on you, the idea it graces you with, and in that moment you just sit and think over a thousand and one things you can do from there after. Today was such a day. After speaking with someone on the phone and hearing their sad and shocking story I came across one of my many quotes which I managed to hustle to Burkina. It said “sometimes we have to get lost to find ourselves.”, for those of you who are movie fanatics, I am sure you have noticed that it’s from the movie Australia – a movie I just admire for its many life lessons and revelations of what is, what was and could have been in our lives but did or didn’t happen due to luck or chance. Anyway after reading this quote the story of this person came to mind and instantly the quote changed to “sometimes we need to loose people in our lives whom we have branded as friends, lovers and life sources just to see clearer who we truly are and where we really stand in that moment in our life with ourselves and with others. Surely we all need people who we can fall on when those bitter times come but I ask you how strong are we if we cannot learn to be alone, stand alone, fight alone and still win? As the saying goes, we came to this world alone – literally we all popped out one at time even if there were two of us inside our mother’s womb. Hence, at some point we will be left alone and we have to appreciate that moment and be skilled in that warfare. Being alone does not mean you are lonely. I see it as a tactic which only makes you stronger, and the life lessons that come with it are just endless and heavy. When one goes through such a phase and practices it every so often they gain insight and knowledge that will not come to them any other way. Such a person gains light of who they are and can be and hopefully work towards that. In addition to all this knowledge, this person will come to find and understand that “any man who knows he knows, knows he knows not a damn damn thing at all.” And that, for you music lovers, is from the song Take a minute by K’naan.
I had a good conversation with some PCVs the other day about identity-well my identity.Which nationality am I or choose to be — Ghanaian, African or American, and after having this exact talk or rather confronted in a less than polite way about where I stand, I have come to a conclusion. I am very unique (just smile) I am not a full American -only by a piece of paper can I legally call myself that.I am not legally a Ghanaian - again says a piece of paper (interesting how this same piece of paper tells us what we can buy and not buy or do and not do…)
So who am I? I am Celestina Dankwa Agyekum. A girl who gets to choose who or what she wants to be AND at any given moment! If i feel like being an American and getting away with not knowing or understanding a thing then that means I will take that chance and run! And if I want to be African, Ghanaian and fit in more, feel cooler in that situation then please do not rain on my parade!
I will claim whichever nationality I so choose at whatever given moment and that will be okay because it is my truth and certainly not yours! I am African, Ghanaian, and American and dare not combine any or hyphenate any!
so here it is world:
There are days Celestina wants to be American and she can absolutely do that without YOUR permission. And please do not try to start thinking to stop her when she decides that for a day or moment she is African or Ghanaian. Celestina is whatever nationality she chooses to be. And as she is still discovering herself, best believe this chapters has just began!
I’ve seen this quote too many times I’m tired! Ahba!
WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS, DON’T MAKE LEMONADE AND DON’T MAKE ORANGE JUICE EITHER. THROW THE LEMONS RIGHT BACK, PICK THE EXACT FRUIT YOU WANT AND DO WHATEVER
THE HELLYOU WANT TO DO WITH IT! We are the designers of our own destinies .
Lol guys it’s my sister.
I hope you become a raging feminist.
Lol I love this version